What I have learned about girls in my three years of college (so far)…
It’s 11:45 PM. I was hoping to do something before going to bed. ANYTHING. Didn’t feel like coding. Didn’t feel like reading or learning something. But I do love WRITING my thoughts on Twitter. Also, Medium, but I don’t get a lot of free time to sit down and write a good blog for you guys!
Now that I got time, I thought, what could be an interesting topic to write on. There’s physics, Elon Musk shit, psychology, even video games. But I have been going through a little “girl-crap” for the past one week. So here I am, writing about what I have learnt about girls in the past 3 years of my college time.
Before I get started, I want to address the “elephant in the room” question you may have. Why isn’t the name of the article, “What I have learned about women in my three years of college (so far)…”?
The reason is that the people (girls) I have come across in the last 3 years, probably do not deserve the title of a woman. A woman is mature, excited about things in life and has that certain ability that girls do not have. Am I sounding a little condescending? Yeah sure, why not.
I can’t explain (I apologize), but there is a distinction between girls and women. You just know it when you meet and interact with both gender populations. Anyways… let’s get started!
A little about me
Before I go on telling about my subjective experiences and observations about girls, I would like to introduce myself. You can’t comprehend my mind in one sitting. You are probably gonna need months on end to understand what and how I think. But, you can go over to my Twitter profile to see my tweets and get a little idea about my personality and mind.
Here’s a few keywords that I think I would describe myself with:
nerd, geek, prodigy, underdog, visionary, naive, curious, conscious about the Universe, asshole, dark (p.s. not my complexion), polymath
Now that you have a little idea about me, let’s begin…
1. Girls want… attention
It’s pretty clear. Everyone knows this. Girls do want “attention”. And it’s alright. Everybody has an evolutionary urge to want attention. It’s what makes us jealous or feel special!
When you are an object of attention, everyone desires something about you. Could be your looks, your personality, your charisma, or your genius. I am gonna go ahead and say that at times, I have harnessed the above four qualities in bits to make an awesome combination of attention. I do crave attention. I am human after all.
In regard to girls, attention is more than just a “necessary attribute”. At times, the need for hyperattention can screw up your life. And we boys, we can’t do but enforce ourselves to give girls more attention than they need.
TL;DR -> Here’s my advice: You have self-respect. Never jeopardize that over a girl who doesn’t give you attention, but only wants others’.
2. Only 1% make the first move
Now this is a highly debated topic. Should a guy “make the first move”?
Turns out girls expect us to make the first move 100% of the time, based on what I have experienced. Girls make the first move 1% of the time. That’s a tiny little number, compared to the whooping hundred.
Don’t judge my statistics! It’s just from the top of my head. But this is really really real. We, as guys and men, are expected to make the first move. I still can’t understand the psychology behind that. What difference does it make?
The ultimate result is an ice-breaker conversation turning into a connection. And if you are lucky enough (like really lucky), that connection turns into a relationship.
In one of my experiences, the girl made the first move. Call me lucky!
Really do, the meaning of my name literally translates to “fortunate, lucky”.
It started off with her having an interest in my entrepreneurial venture, and then that escalating into a beautiful friendship and a romantic interest, then it all came tumbling down like this rocket:
Anyways, coming back to the art of making the first move…
If you are a girl reading this blog, try to step out of your comfort zone, or ego like the Romans say, and make the first move. Break the chain!
If you are a guy reading this blog, well we will never stop making the first move, would we? 🙂 Keep hustling!
3. The key to her heart… FOOD
The key to a girl’s/woman’s heart is through her stomach. You might have read this somewhere. Or experienced first hand…
Nothing gets a girl thinking than food. Food is the greatest blessing from the Creator. Not only it gives you nutrition and metabolism to survive and live, it also is one of your best shots to go the extra mile and make her yours (again if you are lucky).
From what I have observed, a girl is really agitated when she’s hungry.
Snickers has one of the best taglines that I have ever seen. Probably why it’s my favorite energy bar (also, the caramel really gets my taste buds tingling).
So keep her gut filled with good food and you may have just increased your odds at landing a girlfriend.
4. Favorite sport… playing mind-games!
Here I go again, “judging the female gender”. But if you have seen this scene from F.R.I.E.N.D.S., when Rachel calls Julie a “manipulative bish”; you will understand how girls generally think of each other, unless they know each other very well.
This is almost never found in guys. We may be jealous of each other, or hate each others’ guts, but we would hardly judge each other based on the little interaction we would have had. Again, exceptions exist!
Girls do have a side of theirs, where manipulation and playing mind-games is just an attribute that everyone is gifted with. It’s pretty hard to be a girl and not play mind-games. I really respect girls who are crystal clear about their choices and mindset.
Why do girls need to be play mind-games with guys?
This question still confuses the shit out of me. Why do you have to tell different things to different guys.
I have a boyfriend… I am in a complicated relationship… I am not looking… I just got out of a horrible relationship…
Not all girls do this, but the ones who do… go ahead and repent. Not only are you misleading the other side, but you are on a path to being called by a very demeaning word. And I am not talking about the word “hypocrite”.
Be clear. Just say what you think. Don’t mislead the other side, because we also have emotions. If we get to know that we got played with, it hurts us. And it hurts us bad…
And everyone already knows how stigmatized the mental health of men is in our country. Think of us as members of the same species, not as toys to be played with. Give us your honesty, we will give the world to you.
5. The last one, for all the introvert girls out there!
Saved the best for the last. One of the toughest things to deal with in college, is the fact that your crush is an introvert. Now there’s nothing wrong with that, but again there is.
Let me elaborate. If you like someone, who can’t even talk to someone they just met, it can be really exhausting for you to become their connection, and then eventually their significant other.
I can relate to the fact that it is hard to talk to someone you don’t know. I myself was someone, a few years back, who could not talk to strangers and easily make connections, especially with beautiful and radiant girls. It’s just something about the feeling of inferiority that is triggered.
The train’s going off the track. Let’s get back on our rails…
I used to like this girl, who wasn’t someone easy to talk to. She obviously knew I was into her, with all the things I tried to make her like me. I even started listening to shit like KPOP, just to have something to talk about.
But if she ain’t conversing, it’s a lost cause. All that input for a zero output. I even tweeted about the ZERO OUTPUT concept a month back (not on the introvert thing)…
So, it’s really important that the other person is willing to open up to conversing, even on the stupidest shit like BTS. Once a conversation starts, you exchange ideas and rank up in each other’s trust metric.
That eventually leads to making a connection, and you know the rest of the story…
If you are a girl, who doesn’t talk to the opposite gender much, do consider practicing. It really would go a long way for us if you are open to conversing.
If you are a guy, you can probably relate. A lot of things that I listed are the most common things that every guy notices, but doesn’t have the time or energy to share with those who are still figuring out if they are straight because they can’t even talk to a girl.
Go ahead and share this blog with your friends. I would really appreciate it. I have been typing since the past 2 hours, trying to give my perspective on a few things that I noticed. I would love that my thoughts are witnessed by more and more people! SHARE NOW!
If you are a girl reading this, you have stayed with me till the end sister. I really appreciate that you haven’t stopped reading, even though now you may have formed an image of me that’s condescending, sexist and demeaning.
It’s alright. I believe you will be able to try to understand my perspective of things. And this is what I want! Coming to common terms with the other gender, so that we are able to get a picture of what we want (that’s what she said!).
I hope that this blog can change a few lives and can be a valuable resource to your matchmaking phase in life. To you I say this:
